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Saturday, March 31, 2012

Young women desperately seeking pleasure

And finally if the sexual liberation was a decoy? Certainly, sex is everywhere. The "blind love" offering sex toys on display. With the heart of this exaggerated female pleasure. How does it work? How? The female orgasm always raises questions and fantasies. What happens in reality? How young girls today do they live their sexuality? They enjoy unfettered and taboo as proposed by the slogans of May 68? Julie (young women have all requested anonymity), 24, student, does not believe him at all. "I recently saw a documentary on Arte, entitled The Clitoris, stranger. The girls interviewed were as ignorant as me. I have not had any education on my anatomy. In high school, in biology (life sciences and Earth), the only course that I remember involved in human reproduction. And it was all about the male anatomy. Probably because without the penis and his magic potion, no reproduction. While female pleasure is not essential for reproduction. " Alumni of a college preparatory classes in Paris 20th arrondissement of Paris, Caroline, Louise, Leah, Sarah, Gaëlle and Nadia, 24 to 27 years, confirm this. "We know nothing of our body or very little. We do not talk much between us about our sexuality, female orgasm remains a taboo." Caroline, 26, a student at the end of medical school, doctors and parents, explains: "I am no more informed than my girlfriends. My parents have never spoken to me that prevention of AIDS, STDs (diseases sexually transmitted diseases) and contraception. For the rest, I improvise and make my experience alone. " As for Gaëlle, 25 years, working in the legal industry, she admits: "I have a friend for two years but the orgasm, I do not really know what it is. I make love with him but it is rather to please him, because for me it is not the nirvana that is said. " Such ignorance is astonishing. But how could it be otherwise meets Philippe Brenot, psychiatrist and couple therapist, author of Women, sex and love, investigation of 3000 women, forthcoming in April at the Arena? "Is there an innate mechanism of sexuality? It is a myth. Sex, it's not natural, it is learned. However, there is a real resignation of education in this area and a contradiction between the ubiquity of pleasure in the society and its staggering lack in education. " What about local doctors, including gynecologists? Philippe Brenot to state: "The medical school, all specialties, it's zero hour of sexuality. Today, the curriculum in some states, conducted by doctors who use their personal experience. It is as if I explained the language as I speak, "he quips. "Disarming and depressing," says Elisa Brown, essayist and journalist, author of The Scientific Revolution of female pleasure, sexuality and orgasm (Odile Jacob, 462 p., 21.90 euros). She speaks of the body of female pleasure and bluntly. She writes: "Ignorance is like a chastity belt psychological: it reduces the sexual potential of women. One can certainly play music by knowing three notes, but not as much as mastering the whole gamut." So, the sexual revolution? "I have mistakenly thought that girls would benefit from the contribution of year to release their elders. However, they are contracted to sexuality andTHE plaisiret trapped more than their mothers. Blocking means that it will probably several generations to blow up the levees that block women's access to pleasure, "said Elisa Brown. The Survey of sexuality in France (La Découverte, 2008), directed by Michel Bozon and Nathalie Bajos in 2008, 79% of women against 93% of men reported having had an orgasm during their last sexual intercourse. Julie has a friend today, almost ten years her senior, very open, without prejudices and taboos. "With him, I talk about sex more easily. We have established a mutually agreed language, decided to say a word when an act or practice that disturbs me or hurts me, or my pleasure. I learned a lot about my body and hers. " For Philippe Brenot, this is proof that sexuality requires models, an introduction and learning. "So learn to drive with someone who can not drive," the psychiatrist. Another central element of sexuality: the eroticism, that is to say, masturbation. Common in boys, it is less common for girls. About 90% of men masturbate against 60% of women, according to the survey on sexuality in France in 2008. Louise is 25. She has never masturbated. "Yet, I often feel like," she says. "Women must learn to let go, not to be ashamed of their fun," Elisa Brown claims. For as the saying goes: "Where there is the embarrassment ..." Melina Gazsi